When you care about something and it’s threatened, you do your best to protect it.
Two weeks ago, I was approached about the fencing between my house and the neighbours — something I didn’t agree on. And then, on Sunday, a small part of that fence, right behind my laundry room, came down.
At that time, I wasn’t given a fair chance to make up my mind about whether it really needed replacing.
One of my gerberas was doing so well this spring — among my many others — and now it’ll be gone. 😞🥺
I did my research and gathered all my facts before handing them over. Two weeks later, while I was out with my backpack, I was approached again — and I was very disappointed.
By law, fence costs are shared if both parties agree to replace it. But the old fence was adequate; it didn’t need replacing. So if the other party insists on a new fence, they should be responsible for the cost.
Queen Elizabeth Rose, Recently Planted, Must Come Down Too
When I came home last Friday, October 3rd, I was told the fence was still coming down. My heart sank in more ways than I can describe. All my years of nurturing that particular part of my garden — the rich soil, the blooms, the small lives rooted there — must now crumble.
All because they said, “It’s gotta be done.”
When you’re pushed too far, you start to feel small — inadequate, invisible even.
Standing my ground doesn’t seem to matter; saying “no” gets ignored. It’s as if my voice doesn’t count, as if I’m nobody.
These lots had to be dug out as well yesterday
Why is it that some people can’t take no for an answer?
And yet… even as the soil sits broken, I know I’ll start again.
Because that’s what people like me do — we rebuild quietly, with sore hands and a heavy heart.
Sorry to hear Di. I’m like that too, not liking confrontation but seems so unfair. You will turn this into something even more beautiful I’m sure.
Thank you so much — it really does feel unfair at times, but hearing this means a lot. I keep reminding myself that even broken soil can grow something new. 🌸
Absolutely and I’m a big believer in karma.
I believe what you are saying. After this day, I will try to be more careful about who is real and who is not. Thank you for the comment. Have a good day.
Oh Daisy, that is so distressing. I hope you can rescue lots of plants. I have gone through fencing confrontation but it’s not close to my house but through the bush. I should have pushed harder to get their share of the payment back from the neighbours after I did the fence.
Lesson learnt that people can be nice and say things to your face but not hold up their end of the bargain
Did you have that on the farm or something?. I hope I saved the plants but will find out in the next few days. I didn’t expect everything to happen so soon after verbal first approached 3 weeks ago. While I was still thinking about it on a Sunday arvo after that first approach the fence came down. 2 weeks later I am digging my plants out, its too late its starting tomorrow.
I have a property but not what you would call a farm, more of a nature reserve.
That is not enough time. I hope you have some pots and soil to give them a temporary home until you can organise a new garden
At least you are out there with plenty of wide open space..here is getting too crowded. No not enough time, I wrote them a letter one copy for me and one for them. But this guy is something alright… no written letter. I save the plants, went to Bunnings this morning and bought some cheap plastic pots.
Yes, I can’t see my neighbours.
I hope the plant saving works 🤞🏼
Fingers crossed 😊
Was it your fence or theirs ? Because if it was yours how is that remotely fair ? That’s insanity.
Lets just say its both ours the only thing I was disappointed about is , I never did have enough time to decide, I had to dig out all my plants, anyway its getting done tomorrow and continuing for at least a week, so I just let it happen.